Blind Date: ‘My contact lens fell out towards the end, so we had to cut it short’
Karyshma's Perspective on Arun
What were your expectations for the evening?
I was looking forward to an unforgettable night filled with great conversation and the chance to connect with someone I might not normally meet. As a romantic at heart, I appreciate the idea of letting fate—or perhaps the Guardian—play a role in matchmaking, rather than getting stuck in the usual routine of apps like Hinge.
Initial impressions?
He greeted me with a friendly smile, arrived right on time, and radiated warmth.
Topics of conversation?
We chatted about a variety of subjects including Instagram, literature, movies, travel experiences, our identities, our families, and even Reggae Reggae crisps! To my surprise, we discovered that we had quite a lot in common and our energies complemented each other well.
Most awkward moment?
It was a bit uncomfortable when neither of us wanted to finish the last bites of our tapas. The waitress popped by our table a couple of times before we finally mustered the courage to wrap it up.
How were his table manners?
Arun exhibited impeccable manners and had excellent taste in food as well.
What stood out most about Arun?
He possesses remarkable conversational skills; he listens intently, responds with thoughtfulness, and is candid about his personal experiences.
Q&A Section
Fancy trying a blind date yourself?
Every Saturday, our dating column pairs two strangers for an evening of dinner and drinks, followed by their candid reflections in response to set questions. This feature, which includes a photograph of each participant before their meeting, appears in Saturday magazine in the UK and online at theguardian.com. Since its inception in 2009, you can read more about its development here.
What kinds of questions will I be asked?
We inquire about your age, location, job, hobbies, interests, and what type of partner you're seeking. If you feel these questions don’t cover everything you’d like to express, feel free to share any additional thoughts.
Am I able to select my match?
No, that’s the essence of a blind date! However, we do gather information about your interests and preferences—providing more details can enhance the likelihood of a good match.
Can I choose my photo?
Unfortunately, no. But rest assured, we will select the most flattering images.
What personal information will be shared?
Only your first name, age, and occupation will be disclosed.
How should I respond to questions?
Aim to answer truthfully while maintaining respect. Consider how your words will resonate with your date, and keep in mind that Blind Date reaches a wide audience both in print and online.
Will I have access to my date's answers?
No, you won’t see their responses. We may edit your answers and theirs for various reasons, including length, and might ask for more details if necessary.
Can you help me find my soulmate?
We certainly hope to! Marriage and children could be on the horizon!
Is it possible to do this in my hometown?
Only within the UK. While many applicants are based in London, we are eager to hear from people from other regions too.
How to get involved
Simply email blind.date@theguardian.com.
Would you introduce Arun to your friends?
Absolutely! I believe he would get along famously with anyone.
Describe Arun using three adjectives.
Open, family-oriented, and relatable.
What impression do you think Arun had of you?
I’m hoping he viewed me positively overall.
Did you go somewhere after dinner?
No, unfortunately, my contact lens fell out near the end of the evening, prompting us to wrap things up sooner. He kindly walked with me to the bus stop and waited for my bus, which I truly appreciated.
And... was there a kiss?
No, there wasn’t.
If you could alter one aspect of the evening, what would it be?
The venue was somewhat loud, leading me to request that he repeat himself occasionally.
Rating out of 10?
8. The food was delightful and the company enjoyable.
Would you consider meeting again?
Yes, we exchanged numbers. While the romantic spark wasn’t instantaneous, I’m open to seeing where this may lead.
Arun's Perspective on Karyshma
What were you hoping for?
I was looking for someone intriguing, personable, and easy to engage with.
Initial impressions?
Karyshma has a beautiful smile and captivating eyes.
Topics of conversation?
We discussed family dynamics and the differences between being the eldest or youngest child. We also touched on how Malaysia deserves recognition beyond just its cuisine, as well as our mutual interests in books and films.
What was the most awkward moment?
I realized that summarizing books isn’t my forte. I tend to keep it vague because I dislike revealing spoilers.
How were her table manners?
Very good indeed.
What’s the best thing about Karyshma?
She has a wonderful laugh and is highly engaging to converse with.
Would you introduce Karyshma to your friends?
Definitely; they would find her very interesting.
Describe Karyshma in three words.
Confident, engaging, and intelligent.
What do you think Karyshma thought of you?
I tended to get a bit too passionate when discussing books, which might have come off as overly intense!
Did you go anywhere afterward?
No, it was simply too cold outside.
And... was there a kiss?
A gentleman never reveals such details.
If you could change one element of the evening, what would it be?
I wish we had taken the right route to the station—I ended up showcasing my dreadful sense of direction.
Rating out of 10?
I don't assign ratings; I prefer to give compliments, but I’d say it was a perfect 10.
Would you want to meet again?
Absolutely! I’m eager to learn more about her.
**Karyshma and Arun enjoyed their meal at Parrillan in London SE1. Interested in trying a blind date? Reach out via email at blind.date@theguardian.com.
